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First dates aren’t interviews!

- May 14, 2012

I can’t tell you how many woman have complained they felt interviewed during a first date. Yes, it can be awkward and some questions are necessary, but please, learn to expand on the answers before asking the next one! Here are some example first-date questions and potential replies in order to expand and turn them [...]

Fear of rejection?

- April 29, 2012

I had a conversation with Sophie, who is a lesbian. Sophie was telling me how difficult it is to pick up a woman in a casual atmosphere. For example, if a woman is smiling at Sophie in a coffee shop, is it because she likes her Sophie’s shoes, is she just being friendly, or is [...]

How light is your baggage?

- April 19, 2012

At the top of each of my clients’ wish list: find me someone with no baggage. That’s pretty impossible since we all have some, but let’s make sure it’s not too much! Baggage can be defined as the pain and negative experiences you are carrying around from your past relationship(s). People who are unable to [...]

How many times should you date someone before knowing it isn’t going further than friendship?

- April 12, 2012

I have worked with countless clients who after One date tell me they didn’t feel “it” and don’t want to see the person again. First dates are tough. It’s a borderline interview with sometimes awkward silence. Seriously, who is at their best on a first date? Second dates are so much more relaxing. It is [...]

Women using escort services

- April 6, 2012

I received a call this week from a TV network who is doing a piece on a company who offers escort services for women. The network was asking for my opinion as to why women would utilize such a service and if there is a shortage of men to date. Women have come a long [...]

A Matchmaker is Worth It

- March 20, 2012

Jokingly, singles will often call Valentine’s Day “single awareness day”. If you spent another Valentines Day alone, or with someone who isn’t…a special someone, maybe it is time for a change.

Both Men and Women Like Sweet Gifts

- March 20, 2012

If figuring out what women want on Valentine’s Day is tough, figuring out what men want may be even tougher. After all, Valentine’s Day isn’t only about the ladies.